“My Boyfriend Does Gay Porn… and I Love It!”
By Gigi Patsy
When I tell people about my relationship, I don’t usually start with the fact that Ryan does gay porn. It’s not because I’m ashamed or because I want to avoid the subject - it’s because that’s not how I define him, or us. When I talk about my boyfriend, I say how funny he is, how we vibe, and the amazing life we’ve built together. The fact he happens to do gay porn is just one part of who he is, like someone else’s boyfriend might be a teacher or a bartender.
We met on set at a photoshoot. I already knew who he was, so there was no shocking reveal moment... From the first time we spoke, what struck me wasn’t his job but his energy, humour, and the way we clicked. That’s what drew me in - not his career, but the fact that he’s himself, fully and unapologetically.
One of the most common questions I get is whether I’m jealous. The truth is, I’m not. I understand the difference between what happens on set and what happens in our private life. Porn is work. It’s not about romance or passion; it’s about production. There are lights, cameras, direction, and staging - it’s a performance that requires stamina and professionalism. What we have at home is ours, and it’s nothing like that… our intimacy isn’t measured in how ‘wild’ it is but in the little details, like lying on the sofa watching TV, having fun with friends, and staying up late talking about nothing.
I think a lot of outsiders imagine our relationship must be full of insecurity, but honestly, it feels very secure - mainly because we communicate constantly. We don’t leave things unspoken. If something comes up, we talk about it. There are no blurred lines or guessing games; we’re completely honest with each other. That’s also how we can support and get involved in each other’s work. People sometimes ask if I watch his scenes; I don’t sit at home watching them for entertainment, but I wouldn’t feel strange about it either - it’s just work. I studied film production at university, so for me, there’s also a creative element to what he does. I’ve even edited some of his work and filmed him myself.
Among friends, our relationship isn’t questioned. The people who know us see how we are together and get it. Strangers sometimes make assumptions, but I don’t let it get to me - they’re just projecting their own hang-ups. For example, people assume that because Ryan does gay porn, he must be gay, or that what we have isn’t ‘real’, but that just isn’t true. At the end of the day, it’s his job. The people who actually matter to us understand that.
What I love most is that I don’t have to hide, invent cover stories about what Ryan does, or feel awkward admitting the truth. I can be upfront and unapologetic, and that in itself feels empowering - there’s real strength in owning it. We love what we do, and I’m proud of that, because it’s not only his porn work; we also do adult services through Vivastreet, and that’s something we both stand by without apology. For us, Vivastreet isn’t just a platform - it’s a way to have more control over our work, connect with people on our own terms, and make choices that suit us rather than waiting for someone else to hand us opportunities. It gives us freedom, both financially and personally, and it’s something we’ve both chosen to do. That shared decision, and the way we support each other in it, is a big part of why we’re so strong as a couple: we refuse to live by anyone else’s rules but our own.
Being with Ryan has made me more open-minded, too. Masculinity isn’t fragile, and sexuality isn’t a box you stay in forever. If Ryan were bisexual, I wouldn’t care - it wouldn’t change the way we are together. What matters to me is who he is when we’re alone, how he shows up for me every single day, and how we love each other. That’s what defines a relationship, not the work he does in front of a camera.
To me, love and commitment are about honesty, loyalty, and presence. It’s not about ownership or jealousy. It’s about showing up, about choosing each other again and again, not because you’re forced to but because you want to. Ryan and I choose each other every day. That’s what commitment looks like in our lives.
If there’s one thing I want people to take from our story, it’s that love doesn’t have to fit into someone else’s rules to be valid. You don’t need to measure your relationship against traditional checklists or outdated standards. What matters is the bond you share, the trust, the joy, and the honesty. My boyfriend does gay porn, and I love him. Life together is real, beautiful, and ours - I wouldn’t change a thing.