For generations, men have been conditioned to believe that strength lies in silence and resilience means facing life’s challenges without complaint. "Man up," "don't cry," and "deal with it" are phrases many men have heard since boyhood. But this old-school notion of masculinity is finally being questioned, and for good reason. Today, more men are embracing a new definition of strength—one that includes vulnerability, honesty, and the courage to ask for help when it’s needed.
The Stigma Around Seeking Help
In the past, seeking help for mental health issues was seen as a weakness, especially among men. The cultural stereotype of a "real man" doesn’t include therapy or expressing emotions; instead, it promotes self-reliance and stoicism. This stigma has been a major roadblock to men’s mental health. Many men who could benefit from therapy or support groups often don’t pursue these options, fearing judgment or a blow to their perceived masculinity.
This approach, however, has come at a high cost. Men are far less likely to seek mental health support than women, leading to higher rates of suicide, addiction, and untreated mental health issues. Studies have shown that men who don’t express their emotions openly are more susceptible to stress, anxiety, and depression, which can spiral into long-term health problems if left unaddressed.
A New Kind of Strength
Thankfully, times are changing. Today’s man is starting to understand that strength doesn’t mean suppressing emotions. Instead, real resilience is about confronting those feelings, sharing them, and knowing when to reach out for support. Just as physical health requires maintenance and care, so does mental health. Reaching out doesn’t mean you’re weak—it means you value yourself enough to prioritise your well-being.
High-profile male figures, from actors to athletes, have openly discussed their struggles with mental health, helping to dismantle the stigma around seeking help. Men like Prince Harry, Dwayne Johnson, and Michael Phelps have shared their battles with depression and anxiety, proving that no one is immune to mental health issues. Their openness has helped normalise therapy and self-care, encouraging other men to follow suit.
How to Start Asking for Help
If you’re unsure how to start, begin small. Confide in a friend or family member you trust. Share how you’ve been feeling without feeling pressure to have all the answers. Many men find that once they open up, they’re met with more support than they anticipated. Alternatively, therapy offers a private, non-judgmental space to explore your thoughts and emotions. Seeking help is like building mental muscles—it gets easier the more you practice.
So, next time life gets heavy, remember: there’s strength in vulnerability. Break the armour, be real, and show others that there’s no shame in asking for help.
