In today's world, masculinity is often seen as some relic from a bygone era, a trait to be suppressed or shamed. From classrooms to living rooms dominated by well-meaning mothers, boys and men are being told to tone it down.
We say tone it up! Because being confident in your masculinity and knowing what you want isn't toxic, selfish, or irresponsible. It's essential.
If you're reading this, you've probably noticed this erosion of manhood and are seeking ways to develop your masculine traits. Maybe you've struggled to find a role model, someone to guide you toward becoming a better man. That's why you're here.
So, let's cut to the chase. Here are 11 Loaded rules to help you reclaim your manliness.
1. Know What You Truly Want
You can't lead others if you don't know what you want out of life. Your romantic relationships will flounder if you lack self-awareness and clear expectations. Happiness and fulfilment come from pursuing your own goals, not what society dictates. Develop your principles, standards, and goals. Be honest with yourself, set boundaries, and stay true to your desires.
2. Never Be Afraid to Ruffle Feathers If Necessary
You don’t have to be confrontational to assert your masculinity. Stand up for your values intelligently. Sometimes, the best response is a quiet, unshakable conviction. Don't go along with the crowd just to be liked. Men today often avoid conflict, fearing disapproval from everyone from their boss to strangers. But remember, you've got one life. Pursue what you desire, even if it means ruffling a few feathers.
3. Always Act, Never React
Weaker men are passive, waiting for life to happen to them. They hesitate, seeking permission and avoiding rejection. This reactive mindset leads to missed opportunities and unfulfilled potential. To be more masculine, adopt a proactive approach. Hunt, build, fight for resources, and protect your loved ones. Good things come to those who go out and get them.
4. Build an Active & Productive Lifestyle
High-value men lead interesting lives filled with meaningful activities. Your routines and habits define you. Surround yourself with like-minded individuals and engage in activities that bring you joy and fulfilment. Whether it's a side hustle or socialising with friends, make sure your lifestyle reflects your aspirations. Don't settle for the mundane; seek out new experiences and challenges.
5. Use Courage to Develop Your Confidence
Confidence is crucial to masculinity, but it's not innate for everyone. It comes from experience and success. Start with courage—tackle challenges despite fear. With each victory, you'll build confidence. This applies to everything, from approaching women to starting a business. Embrace your fears, act anyway, and let experience build your confidence.
6. Set High Standards for Yourself & Others
Respect and high standards go hand in hand. Expect more from your relationships, friendships, and career. Don't rationalise poor standards with excuses. Set high expectations for yourself first, and others will follow. A high-value man demands respect and doesn't settle for less.
7. Set Strong Boundaries for Others
People will treat you the way you allow them to. Set clear, strong boundaries and communicate them calmly. This will filter out toxic relationships and attract those who respect you. In relationships, women appreciate a man who stands up for himself and maintains his boundaries. This also demonstrates that you'll stand up for them when needed.
8. Develop Your Discipline to Develop Your Freedom
Discipline is the cornerstone of progress. Relying on motivation alone is futile; it's inconsistent. Discipline ensures that you stick to your goals and habits, leading to success. Develop a disciplined mindset, and you'll find freedom in your achievements. Consistency trumps motivation every time.
9. Take Responsibility to Take Control
High value men take responsibility for their actions and circumstances. Excuses are easy, but they lead to regret. Accept that everything is your fault and look for ways to improve your situation. This proactive approach fosters growth and development.
10. Develop & Apply Stoicism on a Daily Basis
Control your emotions to maintain focus and make logical decisions. Stoicism isn't about bottling up feelings but understanding what you can control and letting go of the rest. Invest your energy wisely, and avoid emotional distractions. Set high standards and boundaries to minimise unnecessary stress and frustration.
11. Look Like a Man, Feel Like a Man
Your appearance affects your confidence. Invest in your physical attributes—fashion, fitness, and grooming. Small changes can make a significant difference. Present yourself as a masculine man, and you'll feel more confident and attract more positive attention.
Conviction Is Key
All these traits require conviction and consistent effort, especially in a world that often pushes back against strong, self-reliant men. Your mission and development must be driven by a powerful "why" to overcome doubts and excuses. Remember, nobody will care about your growth as much as you do. Stay disciplined, stay committed, be grateful, help others and take your development seriously.